HOW TO COPE WITH A DISRESPECTFUL COWORKER.

No matter how hardworking, kind, loyal, dedicated, honest and utterly fabulous you are - there may still be people on your job who do not treat you with respect. This can be frustrating, but it shouldn't wreak havoc on your self-esteem or ruin your day. In fact, it really shouldn't even make you bat an eyelash.

As Karen Burns, career blogger and author of the book, THE AMAZING ADVENTURES OF WORKING GIRL, writes about disrespectful coworkers : "Recognise that something is wrong with that person.....(and) go about your life as if the problem person is not even there." In other words : "It's not you, it's them." Coping with a disrespectful coworker can be difficult, but once you learn how, you can go back to being your charming, amazing, focused, respectable self. Let these be tips that lead the way!

Detach, detach, detach! You absolutely must not let another person's disrespectful attitude penetrate your soul and damage your spirit. I should not bother and let it pass. Detach ourselves from it. From the problem situation before it dampens your spirit even further. It's really depriving. Sometimes it's good to break down in our own solitude. Crying helps to return our spirits to our innermost self.

Karen Burns writes," Don't let them see they are getting to you." I agree and encourage you to take it another step further: Don't let them get to you, period. Another person is just another person; another person is not a superpower, all-knowing god. Another person's opinion of you or behavior towards you has no bearing on who you really are.

Say, "It's not me, it's them." There are all kinds of reasons why people act disrespectful, but usually it boils down to the overblown egos they build to hide their insecurities and internal fears. People can be self-absorbed, unaware, immature, jealous or just clueless.Whatever the reasons, remember, another person's behavior is another person's behavior. It has nothing to do with you, so don't take it as a sign that something is wrong with you.

Sometimes it is outraging. Sometimes it makes you boil. I know there are times when stressfulness makes you boil. Take a breath. Drink a glass of water. Swallowing water cools down the system and I think people can relate better when they've settled their systems down. So now, you can think rationally. Without starting a fight.